Unit 4: You put up with a lot.

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Agenda

Topic: You put up with a lot.

Part 1: Vocabulary

Part 2: Conversation

Part 3:  Language Booster

Part 4: Pronunciation

Part 5: Speak with confidence

Part 1

Vocabulary

1.💡 Directions

Read the sentences about common friendship problems. Check(✅) the ones you have experienced.

_______ 1. Your friend seems to feel awkward around your other friends.
_______ 2. You confront your friend about a problem, and he or she gets angry and stops speaking to you.
_______ 3. Your friend wants to hang out with you all the time, but you have things to do.
_______ 4. Your friend keeps asking you to lend him or her money.
_______ 5. Your friend is pushy around your other friends and constantly interrupts them when they talk.
_______ 6. Your friend expects you to put up with his or her lateness, but gets upset when you are late.
_______ 7. Your friend lied to you, and you are beginning to resent him or her because of it.

2.💡 Directions/ Pair work

Teacher & Student:

Describe a problem you have had with a friend. Are you still friends with the person?

Sample Conversation

A: What kind of problem have you had with your friend!

B: Well, she got upset and thought I was spending too much time with my boyfriend. I think she was jealous.

A: What did you do? Are you still friends?

Part 2

Conversation

1. 💡 Directions

Listen and answer 2 questions.
1. Why isn’t Pablo with lngrid and Robert?
2. What is Robert going to do?

Man: Robert, Woman: Ingrid

Transcript

Ingrid: Hi, Robert. Where’s Pablo? I thought he was hanging out with us tonight.
Robert: Hi, Ingrid. He canceled at the last minute.
Ingrid: Again? You put up with a lot from him.
Robert: Yeah, he keeps doing it. I’m starting to resent him for it.
Ingrid: Have you tried confronting him about it?
Robert: Do you really think that’s a good idea? I don’t want to be pushy and have an awkward conversation.
Ingrid: If you don’t feel comfortable talking to him, you might want to consider texting him about it.
Robert: That’s not a bad idea. I’ll give it a try.
Ingrid: Great! Let me know how it turns out.

Example answer
  1. Pablo isn't with Ingrid and Robert because at the last minute he decided not to join them.
  2. Robert is going to text Pablo to tell Pablo how he feels.
2. 💡 Directions

Practice the conversation with teacher

3. 💡 Directions

Listen. Write the three extra sentences you hear in the conversation. Practice the new conversation.

Girl01

Ingrid

Hi, Robert. Where’s Pablo? I thought he was hanging out with us tonight.

Hi, Ingrid. He canceled at the last minute.

Matt

Robert

Girl01

Ingrid

Again? You put up with a lot from him. (1) __________________

Yeah, he keeps doing it. I’m starting to resent him for it.

Matt

Robert

Girl01

Ingrid

Have you tried confronting him about it? (2) __________________

Do you really think that’s a good idea? I don’t want to be pushy and have an awkward conversation.

Matt

Robert

Girl01

Ingrid

If you don’t feel comfortable talking to him, you might want to consider texting him about it. (3) __________________

That’s not a bad idea. I’ll give it a try.

Matt

Robert

Girl01

Ingrid

Great! Let me know how it turns out.

Answers

Ingrid: Hi, Robert. Where’s Pablo? I thought he was hanging out with us tonight.
Robert: Hi, Ingrid. He canceled at the last minute.
Ingrid: Again? You put up with a lot from him. (1) He did this last time.
Robert: Yeah, he keeps doing it. I’m starting to resent him for it.
Ingrid: Have you tried confronting him about it? (2) You should talk to him.
Robert: Do you really think that’s a good idea? I don’t want to be pushy and have an awkward conversation.
Ingrid: If you don’t feel comfortable talking to him, you might want to consider texting him about it. (3) And you can think about what you're going to write.
Robert: That’s not a bad idea. I’ll give it a try.
Ingrid: Great! Let me know how it turns out.

Part 3

Language Booster

1. 💡 Directions

Notice the ways we make and comment on suggestions.

Making suggestions

Have you thought about

Have you tried


confronting him?

You might want to consider

You might want to think about


texting him.

Commenting on suggestions

Do you really think that’s a good idea?

That might work.

That’s worth thinking about.

l’m not really sure that would work.

That’s not a bad idea.

2. 💡 Directions

Student & teacher

Share and give advice about the friendship problems below.

My friend is ignoring me.My friend told my secret.My friend lied about me.
Example

Some questions that teacher can ask student to brainstorm.

  • Why don't you (confront him)?
  • You could (confront him)?
  • What about (confronting him)?

  1. My friend is ignoring me.

    • Have you thought about asking them directly if something is wrong?
    • You might want to consider texting them to express how you feel.

  2. My friend told my secret.

    • Have you tried discussing how it made you feel and why it was important?
    • You might want to think about setting boundaries for future trust.

  3. My friend lied about me.

    • Have you thought about confronting them calmly to understand their reasons?
    • You might want to consider having an open conversation to clear the air.

Part 4

Pronunciation: Reduction of have you

💡 Directions

Listen. Notice the way have you is reduced in these sentences to sound like haveya.

  1. Haveya thought about asking her
  2. Haveya tried confronting him about it?
  3. Haveya considered texting him?
💡 Directions

Pay attention to your pronunciation of have you in Language Booster section.

  1. My friend is ignoring me.

    • Have you thought about asking them directly if something is wrong?

  2. My friend told my secret.

    • Have you tried discussing how it made you feel and why it was important?

  3. My friend lied about me.

    • Have you thought about confronting them calmly to understand their reasons?.

Part 5

Speak with confidence

💡 Directions

Look at the friendship problems in the Vocabulary section. Think of a possible solution for each problem.

1. Your friend seems to feel awkward around your other friends.

2. You confront your friend about a problem, and he or she gets angry and stops speaking to you.

3. Your friend wants to hang out with you all the time, but you have things to do.

4. Your friend keeps asking you to lend him or her money.

5. Your friend is pushy around your other friends and constantly interrupts them when they talk.

6. Your friend expects you to put up with his or her lateness, but gets upset when you are late.

7. Your friend lied to you, and you are beginning to resent him or her because of it.

Example
  1. Invite your friend to fun activities with the group to help them feel more at ease.
  2. Give them some time, then tell them you value the friendship and want to talk it over.
  3. Explain your schedule and suggest specific times you can meet.
  4. Tell them you can't lend money and suggest other ways to help.
  5. Talk to them privately about letting others speak and being polite.
  6. Talk about being on time and respecting each other's schedules.
  7. Tell them how the lie made you feel and discuss how to trust each other again.